You will be able to best gauge where her beliefs stand in regards to the church if you listen to how she describes her mission. You are looking for evidence that a.
I know a non-Mormon guy who married a Mormon woman and has kept her beautiful and desirable, by encouraging her religious involvement, even though he avoided Mormonism himself.
I would not fear as much as she does, but that is her reality. Her experience may or may not be typical, but it is something to consider.
I agree with what you and so many of the other replies have said: Listen with an open heart and curiosity.